In Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office, executive coach and leadership expert Lois P. Frankel delivers a transformative guide for women navigating the corporate world. Rooted in real coaching insights and behavioral psychology, the book identifies 101 subtle but damaging behaviors—many of them conditioned from childhood—that often hold women back in their careers.

Frankel challenges the notion that being “nice” is enough to succeed. She explains how behaviors like avoiding conflict, downplaying accomplishments, or waiting for permission may feel polite or professional—but in reality, they can undermine authority, diminish visibility, and block upward mobility.

This book isn’t about changing who you are—it’s about unlearning outdated habits and replacing them with strategic actions that support leadership, confidence, and executive presence. Whether you’re climbing the ladder, switching industries, or mentoring future leaders, Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office provides the awareness and tools to move with purpose, power, and clarity.


Top 10 Lessons from Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office by Lois P. Frankel

1. Stop Seeking Constant Approval

Many women are taught to be likable above all else, but in the workplace, seeking approval from everyone can signal insecurity. Focus on respect, not popularity.

2. Don’t Minimize Your Achievements

Saying things like “I was just lucky” or “It was a team effort” downplays your own impact. Own your wins. Visibility is key to advancement.

3. Learn to Say No Without Guilt

Saying “yes” to every request—especially those outside your role—can lead to burnout and a lack of focus. Boundaries signal strength, not selfishness.

4. Speak With Authority, Not Apology

Phrases like “I’m not sure but…” or “This may be a stupid idea…” weaken your message. Speak clearly and confidently to command respect.

5. Don’t Wait to Be Noticed

Hard work alone isn’t enough. You must learn to self-advocate, ask for promotions, and make your value visible. Leaders promote themselves strategically.

6. Avoid Over-Explaining or Over-Apologizing

Over-explaining can come off as defensive or unsure. Apologizing too often, especially for things out of your control, erodes perceived confidence.

7. Stop Doing Everyone Else’s Work

Taking on tasks that others should handle—just to be helpful—trains people to rely on you instead of respecting your time. Delegate and prioritize.

8. Don’t Let Perfectionism Hold You Back

Waiting until something is flawless before you act can cost you opportunities. Success comes from progress, not perfection.

9. Position Yourself as a Leader, Not a Doer

Being efficient at tasks is great, but leadership is about vision and influence. Think big-picture. Communicate ideas, not just execution.

10. Embrace Power, Don’t Avoid It

Many women fear being seen as “too ambitious” or “aggressive.” But power used wisely is a tool for positive change. Own it unapologetically.


Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office is more than a business book—it’s a mindset shift. It helps women break free from unconscious habits, step into leadership with confidence, and finally claim the influence they deserve.

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